A Relationship Revolution
LIFE IS RELATIONSHIPS; THE REST IS JUST DETAILS.
THIS IS THE GREATEST TRUTH.
EVERYTHING IN LIFE THAT TRULY MATTERS CAN BE BOILED DOWN TO RELATIONSHIPS.
ONE-MINUTE REVIEW The DNA of RELATIONSHIPS
1. The DNA of Relationships:
- You are made for relationships. Relationships are part of the creation design. You are created to need relationships.
- You are made with the capacity to choose. You can’t always choose your relationships, but you can choose how you will act in those relationships.
- You are made to take responsibility for yourself. You are responsible for your choices and actions. You cannot change the other person, but you can take responsibility for your own behavior.
2. You have a relationship with others, with yourself, and with God. Each of those relationships is not only important, but each is intricately related to the others.
3. It’s never just about the other person. The problem you have with another person is often a problem you have with yourself.
4. Put yourself in the picture. When you see yourself in the same “frame” as the other person, you begin to see yourself as part of the problem as well as part of the solution.
5. Get God’s lens for a healthy view of your relationships. Only when you see your relationships through an accurate lens—God’s lens—can you see others as he sees them and see yourself as he sees you. That lens is the basis for healthy relationships.
6. All three relationships must be in balance. Each of the three relationships is so tied to the others that if one is out of balance, the other two will be out of balance too.
7. Choice equals change. All relationships involve choice. When you choose to work toward healthy relationships, you often find things need to change. You must choose to change, even when the change is scary.
8. Not choosing is itself a choice. If you postpone making a choice, making a change, then you are choosing. By not doing anything, you force change to be done to you.